10 times I was wrongfully arrested, prosecuted as a male DV victim—the DOJ has ignored me for 37 years.
I'm sharing my story because the legal system failed me repeatedly. In 1993, my ex-wife attacked me. I called for help—I was arrested. In 1984, I was accused by a principal of assaulting a girl with no marks—prosecuted. In 2001, my ex-wife experienced adrunkbrape related PTSD flashback, attacked me, trapped me in the bathroom—I was arrested again. That is 9 wrongful prosecutions total.
Every time, officers failed to identify the primary aggressor. They saw me—the male, the one who appeared "hysterical" from trauma—and assumed I was the perpetrator. The women who attacked me were often intoxicated or in a flashback state, but I was the one handcuffed.
I've contacted the DOJ Civil Rights Division, the FBI, local complaint boards—hundreds, maybe thousands of times since 2001. I've received zero investigation. The system designed to protect victims has protected everyone but me. I am sharing this because men deserve protection too. If you've been through this, speak up. We need to change how police identify primary aggressors. #MaleVictims #DomesticAbuse #FalseArrest #DOJ. 4,000 911 calls
I am a male domestic violence survivor who was wrongfully arrested and prosecuted nine times between 1993 and 2001. In every instance, I was the one attacked—by my ex-wife during PTSD flashbacks, by an intoxicated woman, and by others—yet I was arrested as the "primary aggressor." I have filed hundreds of complaints with the DOJ since 2001 and have been ignored. My case exposes a systemic failure in how law enforcement handles male DV victims. I am available for an interview to share my documentation and personal experience.
· hashtags and tags like @civilrights, @FBI, @DOJ on social platforms to flag officials.
🔗 Direct Links
· TikTok: Download app → Create account → Post video (screen-record text or speak directly to camera)
· Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/
· The Doe: https://thedoe.com/ (submit story)
· Stories by Strangers: Instagram @storiesbystrangers or storiesbystrangers.com
· Real Men Feel: https://www.realmenfeel.org/ (reach out via contact page)
· Weallgotplayed: https://weallgotplayed.com/